Back to school traditions

back to school traditions

My daughter started her second year of preschool yesterday and I wanted to share something I’ve been doing to make the back to school season feel a little more special.

Last year I started a new tradition where we buy and arrange fresh flowers the night before the first day of school as a symbol of fresh starts, new beginnings, and all of the growth that will happen in the coming year!

I include my daughter in the process by having her come to the store to pick out the flowers, and then we listen to fun music while we make flower arrangements together and set them up all over the house.

Right now, I’m way more into this than she is at 4 years old, but I’m hoping that I remember to keep the tradition going year after year, and eventually she’ll look back on it as something that her crazy mom did to make her feel loved and celebrated!

Transitions are so important and crating simple rituals around them helps us all feel so much more grounded and at ease during seasons of change.

Do you have any special back to school traditions or routines? I’d love to hear about them!

And if you don’t, maybe you can take some time this weekend to start one! It doesn’t have to be complicated. Just think of something that you can enjoy with your children year after year to mark the beginning of the school year. Maybe it’s a special breakfast that you make, a lazy Saturday morning in bed, or a local carnival or event that you go to. Maybe it’s a special book that you read or a special song that you sing. Maybe you start having movie nights every Friday or bake cookies every Monday. What would feel sweet and special to you and your family?

Have a beautiful weekend, friend!

Be well,
Ambar

How to Stop Dreading Bedtime with Littles

 

stop dreading bedtime

For the first 3 years of my daughter’s life, my husband and I felt that we had lucked out with a little one that was a good sleeper. Our baby, June, quickly started waking up just once per night for most of her infancy (something I could totally deal with after hearing other parents’ horror stories of babies who would wake up countless times or refuse to sleep at all). Right after she turned one, she started sleeping through the night. She slept soundly though the night for the next two years. Bedtime went smoothly most nights. We would do bathtime, read two books, then bed without much fuss. In our heads, we were living the dream.

That is, until this past summer when we transitioned June out of a crib and into a regular bed. That’s when everything changed. This little one was suddenly loving her newfound freedom and refusing to go to bed every night! We tried to continue our bedtime routine of bath, two books, and bed, but every time that we would put her in bed, she would immediately get back up… over and over and over again.

Bedtime started to become a huge ordeal and something that we dreaded each night. We tried everything: walking her back to bed each time she got up. Laying next to her until she fell asleep. Sitting outside her bedroom door. Letting her sleep in our bed. Nothing worked and it became a long drawn out affair where my husband and I felt like we were losing a battle each night.

From day one as a mom, I have been a very attachment based parent, and things like crying it out never worked for me. The flip side of that is that disciplining is one of the areas in which I need the most work as a parent. And bedtime was becoming a constant reminder of that as for the life of me I could not get my child to go to sleep!

Then, I listened to a podcast featuring a sleep expert who said something that got me thinking of this whole thing differently. She said that she works with all different types of families, and that even if a family co-sleeps, they can still have a plan for bedtime.

This made me realize that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. I had been thinking that the only two options were to let my child miserably cry herself to sleep each night, or to give in to her every whim. But now, I realized that there were a lot of options in between that I hadn’t even considered.

In the last month or so, I’ve started implementing some changes and creating my own bedtime plan with June, and things have gotten so much better! I want to share what I’ve been doing in case it might help you too!

Here are 4 steps you can take to create a smoother experience of bedtime:

1) Decide the parameters – I realized that even if I didn’t want to let my daughter cry herself to sleep, or lock her in her bedroom at night, we had to have some boundaries as to what is acceptable.

When I first started making these changes, we were to the point where we were reading almost every book on the bookshelf, and making up countless stories each night. Bedtime had turned into such a struggle that I often just gave up and let her crawl into bed with me until she fell asleep. The problem with that was that she goes to sleep by 8pm, and I was getting so tired laying in bed that I then didn’t want to get back up again after she went down. I realized that this wasn’t working for me, so I set my parameters: two books, one story, and no more sleeping in my bed. I decided that no matter what, June has to stay in her room when it’s time to go to sleep (even if I stay in there with her).

2) Make it as special as possible within those parameters – Once I decided that we were staying in June’s bedroom each night no matter what, I went about making sure that her room felt as special as possible. I make sure that we diffuse lavender essential oils next to her bed, snuggle with cozy knit blankets, and sit in silence.

I remembered that…

Bedtime is a spiritual practice.

When June was an infant I would often use bedtime as a special quiet time of day for the two of us. I would sit in stillness and meditate as I nursed and rocked her to sleep and those are some of my sweetest memories with her as a baby.

Just because she is getting older, does not mean that bedtime has to stop being a spiritual practice. Quite the contrary. I am more aware than ever that my daughter is growing faster than ever, and that she won’t want to lay with me forever. By making the most of our nights together, I am creating more special memories that we’ll always have to hold onto. I am showing her how to create a sacred space to rest in. And, I am making the experience more pleasurable for myself as well.

3) Ditch your own agenda – Part of this process includes surrendering. I realized that a lot of what I was dreading about bedtime is that I wanted to be doing something else. At the end of a long day, I look forward to having some alone time to read or snuggle on the couch with my husband. With bedtime taking so long each night, I was becoming aggravated that I couldn’t do the other things I would rather be doing.

Now, I’ve surrendered to the fact that bedtime might take a bit longer than I would like it to most nights. I’ve stopped fighting it and surrendered to doing my best to enjoy the present moment instead of counting down the minutes until my little one falls asleep.

4) Detach from the outcome – By this point, you have done all you can. You have set and enforced limits that you are comfortable with. You’ve made bedtime feel special. You’ve let go of your own agenda in wishing things were different. Now it’s time to let go of the outcome.

Even if your little one wants to keep reading 10 books, you stay firm to your limit of 2 stories. If he or she wants to keep talking, you stop responding. If they try to leave the room, you stay put and they will make their way back.

Things won’t go perfectly each night, but by sticking to this 4 step process, you’ll ensure that bedtime becomes a more pleasant experience for both you and your little one.

Do you have a little one that doesn’t like to go to sleep?! What are your bedtime tips? Please share with us in the comments below.

Wishing you a restful week!

Be well,
Ambar

 

Back to School! Saying Goodbye to Summer & Hello to Fall

transition from summer to fall

Hey friends!

September is upon us and all of the back to school/ back to work energy is in the air! I have been feeling a strong shift from the more relaxing, laid back energy of summer to the busy-er, hustle and bustle of fall! Have you been feeling it too?

With the change of seasons I have been feeling excited to get back to blogging more consistently again! I’ll be back to writing new posts every week with tips, information, and motivation to help you live your happiest, healthiest life! I have really missed writing and connecting with all of you on a regular basis and am so looking forward to getting back in connection with our wonderful little community!

My daughter June will be starting preschool for the first time this week and I am just a bundle of emotions over here! If you have been with me for awhile, you might remember what a big deal it was for me when I left my full-time job in December of 2016 to be home with June. Now that she is getting ready to start school and we are evolving to a new phase of our journey together, it feels like a big milestone. I left my job because I truly wanted to soak in June’s baby years. Now that they have gone by in a blink of an eye, I am so thankful that I made that decision (challenging as it was at times!). I can hardly believe that my little baby is growing up into such a “little big girl” as I like to call her. 😉

Does anybody else feel extremely emotional and bittersweet about watching their babies grow?

Regardless of how old your children are, or if you are entering a new “back to school” season or not, the shift in energy from summer to fall is something that affects all of us.

I encourage you to do something this week to mark the unofficial end of summer and create a smooth transition into fall. Marking these transitions is a beautiful way to honor the different seasons in our lives.

Here are some ideas to get you brainstorming!

Ideas for celebrating the end of summer:

  • Get outside and soak in as much warmth as possible
  • Pick seashells or rocks and bring them into your home as a reminder of a summer well spent
  • Wash and put away any beach or summer gear that you won’t be using again in the near future
  • Go for a walk with your family and talk about your favorite moments from the summer
  • Take a moment to look at the sun and thank it for the warm, sunny summer memories

Ideas for marking the upcoming fall:

  • Spend time outside in the evenings and notice if you feel a shift in the air
  • Bring some falling leaves or pinecones inside to start preparing for the upcoming autumn season
  • Declutter a room or closet
  • Buy a new calendar or planner
  • Create a new morning routine for the “back to school” mornings

Being intentional and creative can be a helpful way to create easeful transitions and get excited about what is to come.

I am planning to spend the next few days engaging in the above activities to help set myself up for success as my family and I adjust to our new routine and schedule.

I’ve also decided that the best way to channel my emotions about my changing roles is to dive deep into new projects to keep me learning and growing. With June starting school and my new burst of creative energy, I am excited to start working a bit more this year and am lining up some new virtual and in person events, so stay tuned! 🙂

The first event that I have planned is a virtual workshop on Meditation and Mindfulness for Stress Relief. During this workshop I’ll be sharing different practices that you can use to relieve stress anytime, anywhere whenever you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed (no meditation cushion required)! If this is something that would be helpful to you, you can click here to learn more and sign up! Early bird pricing is available through Labor Day.

meditation and mindfulness for stress relief

Now, I’d love to catch up and hear from you! How was your summer? Are you or your children embarking on any new transitions this fall? What exciting plans and intentions do you have for this upcoming season of life? Please comment below and let me know! One of the things I want most is to get to know each of my readers on a more personal level. I personally read each and every comment I receive and would love to be in true connection with you!

I am so happy to be back to blogging and look forward to talking more soon!

Have a beautiful week, friends!

Be well,
Ambar

My baby’s turning 3 & my blog is turning 2!

mommy and me yoga challenge

Hi friends!

I’ve missed you! It’s so nice to be here writing to you after taking the last month and a half off from blogging.

I’m coming to you today with an update on what’s been going on in my world, and some info on a fun new project that I want you to be a part of!

As I write this post, I’m getting ready to celebrate my daughter’s 3rd birthday, and also the 2nd anniversary of my blog!

This is always an emotional time of year for me. I find myself reminiscing and thinking back on those first few days of bringing my baby girl into this world. I think about how much my daughter has grown and what a blessing it is to be able to witness her young joy, love, and spirit. If you are a mom, maybe you experience some similar bittersweet feelings around your child’s birthday too.

This time of year also makes me think about why I started this blog. I decided to start blogging just as my daughter was nearing her first birthday. At the time, I was thrilled that I had survived my first year of motherhood (ha!), and was feeling really proud of myself for going from a rocky start with a newborn to being completely in awe and gratitude of the many gifts of motherhood. Around this time, I had really embraced mommy and me yoga, essential oils, and other holistic methods that were greatly improving my life, I was halfway through my year long life coaching certification program, and I wanted to share all that I was learning with other mothers around the world. And so, Mama Bird Well Nest was born. 🙂

And now, 3 years later, I am celebrating the birth of both my human baby and my blog baby!

If you read my last newsletter that I sent out in early May, then you already know that I’ve been taking a little break from blogging. After blogging every week for the last 2 years, I felt myself being called to step away from writing a little bit to focus more on my home and family life.

I’m a big believer in intuition, and so I listened to this little voice.

I stepped away from my business.

I started focusing more on creating a happy home life.

I took charge of my health, started eating healthfully, and recommitted to my yoga and meditation practice.

I started doing more mommy and me yoga with my daughter.

I hired a babysitter so that my husband and I could have more date nights.

I’m happy to report that all of these seemingly small changes had a big effect on me! They were exactly what I needed to feel refreshed and revitalized.

And then, in the middle of this break, something interesting happened…

I started to feel inspired to create a new project!

If you follow me on social media, you’ve seen that I’ve been sharing photos of my mommy & me yoga practice with my daughter, June, since she was a newborn. As I recommitted to doing more yoga with June over the last month, I started noticing that every time I posted a photo of us doing yoga together, I would get messages from other moms who were interested in doing yoga with their children, but didn’t know where to start.

And so, I decided to create a free, 5 day mommy & me yoga challenge!

Throughout this challenge I will be teaching moms how to start their own mommy & me yoga practice with their babies, preschoolers, and toddlers! You’ll learn fun yoga poses, breathing exercises, and relaxation techniques… basically, everything you need to know to help stop toddler tantrums and mommy meltdowns!

In just 5 days, you will have everything you need to start sharing the gift of yoga with your little ones. And the bonus is that as a result of learning these skills, you will start to feel more peaceful, patient, and present as you go about your mom life!

I’ve created this yoga challenge as a way to celebrate the anniversary of my blog and my journey as a mother. I hope you’ll join me in the celebration! I am honored to be able to give back to my community in this way. We are going to have such a great time doing yoga together as a way of kicking off a summer of fun with our little ones!

Click here to sign up and join us!

mommy and me yoga challenge

 

 

 

 

If you are a mom of little ones, I would love to have you join us in this yoga challenge! If you are not a mom of little ones, I invite you to share this with any mom friends who you think might benefit from it.

As always, I greatly appreciate your support and am so grateful to have you in my inner circle.

Thank you for sticking with me throughout this much needed sabbatical, and for your support as I launch this new project! I firmly believe that this new inspiration for my yoga challenge would not have come if I had not given myself the time and space to step away from blogging and focus more on my family. I really appreciate you being here and being a part of my process!

In closing, I just want to encourage you to listen to your intuition. If you are feeling that something is a little off in your life, listen to your wise inner voice. We always know what’s best for us; all we need to do is make space to listen.

Wishing you a summer of fun, love, and connection!

Be well,
Ambar

P.S. Make sure to click here to join us in the Yoga With Littles Challenge! 🙂

 

 

 

Mom Life is the Best Life

mom life is the best life

Earlier this week my daughter, June heard me say that “mom life is the best life”, and she asked, “what’s mom life, mommy?” Ah my child… where do I begin…

Mom life is beautiful, joyful, messy, and unfiltered.

Right now, for me, in this season of life, mom life is waking up early to start my day with a few precious minutes of alone time, even though I’d rather be sleeping in.

It’s mornings spent at story time, the park, or at play dates.

It’s meeting a friend and her kids for lunch, and realizing that you barely finished a full sentence in between encouraging your kids to eat and making sure no one catapulted out of their booster seat.

It’s craving a quiet afternoon but constantly catering to requests for more toys, stories, and snacks.

It’s being in constant awe of how big you’re getting, how much you’re changing, and how much independence you’re developing.

It’s knowing that even though I think you’re so big right now, a year from now I’ll look back and realize how little you were.

Mom life is constant nostalgia.

It’s counting down the minutes until daddy gets home, not just for the extra set of hands (although those matter too!), but for the moments the three of us get to share together, our own little team.

Mom life is wondering why a little person that’s so tired fights so hard to stay awake, when I myself would love nothing more than to crawl into bed each evening.

And then, mom life, ironically, is me fighting to stay awake every night after you go to bed so that your dad and I can have some alone time, which we so desperately need.

Mom life is me realizing that although all I’ve just said makes mom life sound a bit like a drag, it’s really the sweetest, most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

Mom life is knowing that the priceless memories we’re making matter so much more than a full night’s sleep, days of peace and quiet, and uninterrupted meals.

Mom life is the most unconditional love and the purest joy you can imagine.

Mom life is a blessing.

Mom life is a gift.

Mom life is the best life.


What is your definition of mom life? We are each at different stages of our motherhood journeys and all have our own unique, personal experiences of mom life. Maybe you are an expecting mom, or maybe your children are already grown. Maybe you mother your grandchildren or your nieces and nephews. Maybe you are not a mother to your own child, but you are a teacher caring for students each day. Perhaps you have birthed a business, a book, a garden, or a new home. We are all mothers caring for the people and things we love.

What does mom life mean to you? Please share in the comments below! I would love to start an open conversation about this. I think it will be beautiful to read about the different experiences of mom life, and see that even though each experience is different, we are all on this beautiful journey together.

May you love your mom life each and every day (even the hard ones).

Be well,
Ambar

How to Take Care of Yourself and Put Yourself First

How to Help Yourself

I have recently been thinking of the Audrey Hepburn quote, “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.”

I had never felt the truth of this statement as much as I have now before I became a mom. I didn’t fully understand selfless, unconditional love, or the fierce devotion I’d have to wanting to help and protect my daughter as much as possible.

At the same time, I also never understood how vital it is to take care of myself, or that the ONLY way to take care of others is by taking care of myself first.

Becoming a mother has taught me what a great helper I am, and it’s also forced me to learn to help myself by taking simple, doable, and consistent actions that make a big difference in my quality of life.

By learning to help myself, and take great care of myself, I am better able to show up in the world as the wife, woman, and mother that I most want to be.

I am currently facing some new stressors in my life. My grandmother, who I am extremely close with had to have emergency surgery and has been in the hospital for almost two weeks. My 90 year old grandfather has been alone in their home, and needs help going back and forth to visit my grandma. I’ve been spending most days at the hospital with them, while also trying to juggle motherhood and all of my other responsibilities, and I’d be lying if I said this wasn’t stressful.

The only thing that’s keeping me sane through this ordeal is my commitment to self care; my dedication to helping myself first.

This is what helping myself first looks like these days:

  • Practicing yoga every morning
  • Spending a little time outdoors each day
  • Eating a healthy breakfast
  • Bringing my own lunch to the hospital
  • Using essential oils to ground me throughout the day whenever I need it
  • Taking a daily break to go for a walk
  • Listening to good music and inspiring podcasts on my drives to and from the hospital
  • Putting away my phone and being fully present with my husband and daughter each night
  • Crying to my husband or a friend whenever I’m feeling particularly burdened
  • Relaxing and reading before bed every night
  • Asking for help when I need it

These activities may seem trivial, and maybe doing one of them by itself wouldn’t have as big of an impact. But the culmination of taking these small moments to take care of myself daily adds up to my feeling grounded, safe, and supported, even during uncertain times.

It is only from this place of being cared for, that I am able to help others. By filling myself up first, I can show up as the patient and loving mother that I most want to be. I can help and support my grandparents as they age. I can be a devoted wife, and a good friend. I can hold more space for my coaching clients and be of greater service to them. I can write meaningful blog posts. I can show up to the world ready to give and ready to help…. But ONLY if I am helping myself first.

This is true for all of us. I would love for you to take some time this week to think about the ways in which you are helping others, and also the ways in which you are helping yourself. Notice if this give and take feels balanced to you. We are here in this world to help one another, but we simply cannot do that to the best of our ability if we are not first helping ourselves.

What can you do to help yourself today?

Please share in the comments below, or reply to this email to speak to me personally!

Take care and have a beautiful week.

Be well,
Ambar

 

P.S. If you are someone who struggles with making self care a priority, I would love to help! I am getting ready to start working with new coaching clients and am offering a free Self Care Strategy Session to anyone who is interested in seeing how life coaching works. I know that this time of year can get a little stressful, and I would love to support you in putting yourself first so that you can have an easeful and peaceful holiday season. Simply send an email to ambar@mamabirdwellnest.com if you would like to claim your free session and we will get it scheduled right away!

 

Our Children’s Stories are Not Our Stories

Our Children's Stories are not our stories
Photo by Bilimama Photography

Hello my friend! If you follow me on social media, (and if you don’t, I would love to connect on my Facebook page, Instagram, and be friends on FB!), you may have seen that my daughter fell down and fractured her collar bone earlier this week. It was a rough day that included 4 hours at Urgent Care with a hurting 2 year old, and lots of tears on both of our parts.

I myself, have never broken a bone, and I didn’t have my first surgery or stitches until I was well into my 20s. Navigating this world of broken bones with a toddler seemed unfair to me. I felt so badly for her and wanted to take away her pain, but of course I couldn’t. Having never experiencing this myself, I realized that I had been hoping that her experience would have been more similar to mine; that she wouldn’t have to handle a broken bone until much later in life, if at all. That’s when I had my epiphany:

Her story is not my story.

My daughter’s story, is not my story. She is her own unique individual, and she is here to have her own unique life experience. She is a human being with her own share of strengths and challenges to navigate in this lifetime.

We all want the best for our children. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we know what’s best for them, or wanting them to experience life in a similar way in which we did, or to protect them from the challenges that we ourselves faced.

But we must remember, that our children are on their own individual paths. Their stories are not our stories.

It’s human nature to want to protect our babies, to hold them close, to keep them safe. And yet, that is not our job.

Our job as mothers, is to provide our children with unconditional love and unwavering support, through the ups and downs of their own individual journeys.

Their journeys are part of our journeys, yes. But, they are not OUR journey. They are their own unique selves meant to experience the world in their own unique way, with their own unique set of circumstances.

We can advise them, guide them, and love them. But we cannot choose their story. We cannot dictate their journey.

We must stick to our own journey. And know that by honoring our own individual journeys, and living our lives as we see fit, in the best ways we can, we are giving our children permission to do the same.

So, next time that you find yourself wishing that you could take away your child’s pain, or that things could be different, stop for a moment, and give yourself the grace to know that they are on their own individual journey. Trust that whatever they are experiencing is a necessary part of their story, and believe in them enough to know that they have the inner strength to get through it. And then, give them lots of love and extra hugs. 🙂

Is this something that you struggle with? What’s the hardest part about trusting that your little ones need to have their own stories? Let me know in the comments below.

Take good care this week.

Be well,
Ambar

5 Must-Have Essential Oils for New Moms & Babies

5 must-have essential oils for new moms and babies

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Essential oils can be a lifesaver for new moms. Have you been curious about the best uses of essential oils for new moms and babies? Then this post is for you. 🙂

I first started using essential oils when my daughter, June, was about 2 months old. Since then, they have become a part of our daily lives. I talk to a lot of new moms who are dealing with challenges that can be helped by implementing an essential oils protocol, so I wanted to share my most recommended essential oils for new moms and babies.

You can get an in depth overview of what essential oils are in the first post of my essential oils series, 5 Must-Have Essential Oils for Families. In short, essential oils are a quick and effective way to get the therapeutic, emotional, and physical benefits of plants. Much like you might drink a cup of tea to get the medicinal properties of certain herbs, you can use essential oils in a similar way. However, essential oils are much more potent and concentrated. For example, one drop of peppermint essential oil is equivalent to 28 cups of peppermint tea. This makes essential oils extremely effective.

The following are the top 5 oils that I used with June as a new mom, and would recommend to other moms:

1) Orange – If there is one thing that new moms need, it’s energy! Orange essential oil is very uplifting and helpful for a quick energy boost. I like to rub a couple of drops between my palms and take a few deep breaths whenever I feel my energy starting to slump. It also works great in the diffuser! Orange has a very clean and refreshing scent and is super helpful in uplifting mood and energy levels. Its uplifting and energizing properties make it one of the best essential oils for new moms.

2) Lavender – As much as new moms need energy, we also need adequate rest… and so do our babies! Lavender essential oil is the perfect oil to start using with babies in order to promote sleep and relaxation. This is the oil that initially got me started with essential oils… the first time I tried it with June, she took her first nap in her crib and slept for hours! This was a significant change for us, because up until that point, she would only nap while I was holding her. Lavender is very calming and relaxing, and can help promote peaceful sleep. To this day, we diffuse lavender essential oil in June’s room every night as part of her bedtime routine. On nights where she is extra fussy, I dilute one drop of lavender with coconut oil and rub on the bottom of her feet. I also add a few drops to my pillow, and apply to over my heart when I am feeling stressed or anxious.

3) Digestive Blend – Most of the popular essential oils companies make a digestive blend. This is a must-have to have on hand with little ones. Many young babies tend to have digestive troubles such as reflux or colic, since their digestive tracts may take awhile to build up. The digestive blend can help soothe an upset stomach and reduce uncomfortable gas and bloating. Whenever I notice that June’s stomach seems to be bothering her, I mix 1-2 drops of the digestive blend essential oils and apply directly to her tummy. It also works great for adults! I have been known to use this blend after overindulging and it provides instant relief.

4) Melaleuca – Melaleuca is better known as tea tree oil and is a great oil with many different uses. Melaleuca helps promote healthy immune function. I like to dilute it with coconut oil and apply up and down June’s spine whenever she is going to be playing with other children to give her immune system an extra boost. It’s also great to diffuse throughout the house to freshen and purify the air. Another great use for melaleuca is to add a few drops to a spray bottle with water and use to wipe up baby spit-up or as a natural cleaner for the surfaces in baby’s room. I also like to put a few drops on my nails after showering to keep them looking healthy. After having my baby, my regular manicures stopped happening as frequently as they used to, so having this trick on hand helped keep my nails healthy and felt like a simple and doable DIY spa treatment.

5) Balance Grounding Blend – I often jokingly refer to Balance as the “oil of motherhood”. I mean seriously, what mom doesn’t need more balance, right?! Balance is the perfect oil for moms. It helps promote tranquility, balance emotions, and bring harmony to the mind and body. These qualities are essential for new moms. After having our babies, our physical bodies are trying to recalibrate and recover from pregnancy and childbirth, while our emotions are trying to process all of the big feelings that new motherhood brings. The grounding blend of Balance can help support our bodies in promoting calmness and tranquility during this transitional time. I like to start my mornings by applying a few drops of Balance essential oil to the bottom of my feet. It is part of my morning routine and helps me start my day feeling great! I also like to  diffuse in my daughter’s playroom in order to create a soothing and calming environment, and apply it to my wrists and back of neck to help ease anxious feelings.

I hope that these suggestions help you start to see the many benefits of essential oils for new moms and babies.

Do you use essential oils for yourself or your little ones? Which are your favorites?

If you are not yet using essential oils, but are wanting to start, I invite you to learn more and shop directly from my doTerra website here: www.mydoterra.com/mamabirdwellnest.

If you have any questions or want individual help choosing which oils might be right for you or your family, please fill out the contact form below or send an email to mamabirdwellnest@gmail.com. I would be happy to support you in using these oils that have been so beneficial for me and my baby!

Have a happy and healthy week!

Be well,
Ambar

I’m a Wild Dreamer. Are You?

Wild Dreamer

Wild Dreamer

I have a confession to make.

I’m a wild dreamer.

Let me explain…

Earlier this year, I had a wild dream.

I dreamed of a life of fun and freedom.

I dreamed of more time with my daughter.

I dreamed of working for myself and being my own boss.

I decided that the way to pursue these wild dreams, was to leave the stability of my full time job.

This may not sound all that wild to you.

But for me, it was.

You see, my paycheck gave me validation.

My daily routine gave me structure.

My career gave me safety.

But, I’m a wild dreamer.

So I left the familiar in search of the unknown.

And it hasn’t been as easy as I thought it would be. In fact, at times it’s been really freaking hard.

When I left my job, I lost the identity that I associated myself with and defined myself by.

Having a full time job was comfortable. It gave me something to do everyday. It filled my life with meaning. It made me feel like I was contributing to society, and to my household.

Without this outside source of validation, I’ve had to find a new sense of self worth; one that comes from within. And that has been tricky.

There is nothing in this life that I love more than being a mother. But being home with my toddler 24/7 can be intense.

I’ve been bringing my daughter to daycare 2 days a week. I tell myself that she needs and thrives on the socialization… but if I’m honest with myself, the truth is that I also need that break.

Not having my own steady stream of income coming in has also been an adjustment. I’ve always been financially independent, and now I feel like I need to ask my husband for money. This too, has been challenging.

Without a job to define myself by, I’ve had to find my new identity. This part may be the most difficult of all.

I am home with my daughter most of the time, but I’m hesitant to say I’m a stay at home mom.

I work on my blog religiously, but I don’t always think of myself as a blogger.

I coach clients through my private and group coaching programs, but I don’t always think of myself as a life coach.

I write a weekly newsletter, but I don’t always call myself a writer.

Basically, I’ve been playing small.

I’ve been scared to label myself.

I’ve been feeling lost as I figure out this new life stage.

But, I’m a wild dreamer.

And I know that I’m meant to live life on my own terms.

And that means setting an example for my daughter…

By fully living out my life’s purpose.

I know with every ounce of my being that I am here to help and encourage other mothers to find their purpose, and live out their own wild dreams…

So that they can set an example for their own sons and daughters.

We need to show our children that their own wild dreams are theirs for the taking…

And this starts by having the courage to go after our own dreams, hopes, and desires.

The first step to actualizing our dreams is to declare them out loud.

So today, I’m declaring that I’m a wild dreamer, yes, but also…

I am a blogger, I am a life coach. I am a writer.

I am a wild dreamer.

I dream of a life that is more play than work.

I dream of family adventures.

I dream of a marriage based on love, devotion, and romance.

I dream of being the type of mother that my daughter wants to be around.

I dream of time and location freedom.

I dream of playing outside everyday.

I dream of fully inhabiting and enjoying my one wild and precious life.

I dream of stepping out into the world as the blogger, life coach, writer, wife, mother, and woman that I am here to be.

And I’m ready now.

Want to join me?

We are all wild dreamers.

We are the dream weavers, and it’s time to make our dreams a reality.

Your wild dreams may not look like mine.

In fact, they probably don’t.

But I know you have them.

What wild dreams do you dream of?

What do you think about, dream about, yearn for?

What have you been wishing for, perhaps not even admitting to yourself?

What desires are whispering to you, trying to be heard?

Remember, the first step to creating your dreams, is to declare them out loud.

What are your wild dreams?

Please share in the comments below! Let’s support one another in rising up and making our dreams a reality.

Dream big and have a beautiful week.

Be well,
Ambar

 

Stop Waiting for Perfect

Stop Waiting for PerfectEarlier this week, I had an experience that reminded me how important it is to make the most of the present moment, and stop putting off our desires by waiting for the perfect time.

It started on a trip to Trader Joe’s. They always have the best flowers there, and I love having fresh flowers in my home. However, I usually only buy flowers when our house has recently been straightened up and cleaned. We are fortunate enough to have someone that comes to clean for us once a month, and then the rest of the time we keep up with the daily maintenance. As a result of mom life with a toddler, after the first week or two of our house being cleaned, clutter starts to pile up, and crumbs start to creep in over the house. I usually don’t buy flowers during these weeks, because I tell myself I should wait until the house is clean and tidy.

But, this week, I realized that this is a ridiculous way to think. By only buying flowers for the one week a month that my house is perfectly clean, I am depriving myself of having flowers for the remaining 3 weeks! Pretty silly right?

So, I bought the flowers. I came home and arranged them in my favorite pitcher. I cleared all of the clutter off of our dining room table and moved it someplace else. As I set down the flowers, I noticed that my daughter’s little fingerprints were all over the table and chairs, but then she started to call from me from the next room, so I didn’t get a chance to wipe them off. And so, the flowers stayed on the perfectly imperfect table.

And you know what? They are perfectly fine there. I’ve been admiring these flowers every time I walk past them all week. I am sitting at the table enjoying them as I write this blog post. They have served as a little reminder of beauty in my imperfect world.

If I had waited to buy the flowers when my house was clean and perfect, I would just be settling for having a dirty house with no flowers now.

This experience got me thinking, and I started wondering what other things in my life I’ve been putting off, waiting to do them when things are “perfect”. This is something we all do. Does any of this sound familiar to you?:

“I’ll go on more date nights with my husband when our baby is older.”

“I’ll use the good china when I have a party.”

“I’ll wear my new dress when I have somewhere special to go.”

“I’ll quit my job when I have more money saved up.”

“I’ll start my own business when my kids are in school.”

“I’ll go out dancing when I have a partner.”

“I’ll cut my hair short when I lose 10 lbs.”

“I’ll eat healthier when I’m less stressed out.”

“I’ll buy a nicer couch when my children are older.”

“I’ll run my first 5k when I have more time.”

We all do this. And the thing is, by waiting for the perfect moment to do these things that we want to do,  we miss out on enjoying our lives to the fullest RIGHT NOW.

Our lives are happening right now, in this very moment. Your life is what’s happening right now, as you are reading this. When we wait for the perfect opportunity to do the things our hearts desire, we are missing out on getting the most out of our precious lives right now. We are putting off enjoying our lives to the fullest. We are missing out on opportunities to care for ourselves and feel as good as we possibly can. We are saying that we do not deserve to be loving our lives as we are living them.

This has to stop.

There is no perfect moment to go after your dreams and desires. The perfect moment is now.

Stop waiting. Buy the flowers now.

What have you been putting off in your life, waiting for the perfect moment? I would love to hear in the comments below.

Have a beautiful week.

Be well,
Ambar