Back to School! Saying Goodbye to Summer & Hello to Fall

transition from summer to fall

Hey friends!

September is upon us and all of the back to school/ back to work energy is in the air! I have been feeling a strong shift from the more relaxing, laid back energy of summer to the busy-er, hustle and bustle of fall! Have you been feeling it too?

With the change of seasons I have been feeling excited to get back to blogging more consistently again! I’ll be back to writing new posts every week with tips, information, and motivation to help you live your happiest, healthiest life! I have really missed writing and connecting with all of you on a regular basis and am so looking forward to getting back in connection with our wonderful little community!

My daughter June will be starting preschool for the first time this week and I am just a bundle of emotions over here! If you have been with me for awhile, you might remember what a big deal it was for me when I left my full-time job in December of 2016 to be home with June. Now that she is getting ready to start school and we are evolving to a new phase of our journey together, it feels like a big milestone. I left my job because I truly wanted to soak in June’s baby years. Now that they have gone by in a blink of an eye, I am so thankful that I made that decision (challenging as it was at times!). I can hardly believe that my little baby is growing up into such a “little big girl” as I like to call her. 😉

Does anybody else feel extremely emotional and bittersweet about watching their babies grow?

Regardless of how old your children are, or if you are entering a new “back to school” season or not, the shift in energy from summer to fall is something that affects all of us.

I encourage you to do something this week to mark the unofficial end of summer and create a smooth transition into fall. Marking these transitions is a beautiful way to honor the different seasons in our lives.

Here are some ideas to get you brainstorming!

Ideas for celebrating the end of summer:

  • Get outside and soak in as much warmth as possible
  • Pick seashells or rocks and bring them into your home as a reminder of a summer well spent
  • Wash and put away any beach or summer gear that you won’t be using again in the near future
  • Go for a walk with your family and talk about your favorite moments from the summer
  • Take a moment to look at the sun and thank it for the warm, sunny summer memories

Ideas for marking the upcoming fall:

  • Spend time outside in the evenings and notice if you feel a shift in the air
  • Bring some falling leaves or pinecones inside to start preparing for the upcoming autumn season
  • Declutter a room or closet
  • Buy a new calendar or planner
  • Create a new morning routine for the “back to school” mornings

Being intentional and creative can be a helpful way to create easeful transitions and get excited about what is to come.

I am planning to spend the next few days engaging in the above activities to help set myself up for success as my family and I adjust to our new routine and schedule.

I’ve also decided that the best way to channel my emotions about my changing roles is to dive deep into new projects to keep me learning and growing. With June starting school and my new burst of creative energy, I am excited to start working a bit more this year and am lining up some new virtual and in person events, so stay tuned! 🙂

The first event that I have planned is a virtual workshop on Meditation and Mindfulness for Stress Relief. During this workshop I’ll be sharing different practices that you can use to relieve stress anytime, anywhere whenever you are feeling anxious or overwhelmed (no meditation cushion required)! If this is something that would be helpful to you, you can click here to learn more and sign up! Early bird pricing is available through Labor Day.

meditation and mindfulness for stress relief

Now, I’d love to catch up and hear from you! How was your summer? Are you or your children embarking on any new transitions this fall? What exciting plans and intentions do you have for this upcoming season of life? Please comment below and let me know! One of the things I want most is to get to know each of my readers on a more personal level. I personally read each and every comment I receive and would love to be in true connection with you!

I am so happy to be back to blogging and look forward to talking more soon!

Have a beautiful week, friends!

Be well,
Ambar

My baby’s turning 3 & my blog is turning 2!

mommy and me yoga challenge

Hi friends!

I’ve missed you! It’s so nice to be here writing to you after taking the last month and a half off from blogging.

I’m coming to you today with an update on what’s been going on in my world, and some info on a fun new project that I want you to be a part of!

As I write this post, I’m getting ready to celebrate my daughter’s 3rd birthday, and also the 2nd anniversary of my blog!

This is always an emotional time of year for me. I find myself reminiscing and thinking back on those first few days of bringing my baby girl into this world. I think about how much my daughter has grown and what a blessing it is to be able to witness her young joy, love, and spirit. If you are a mom, maybe you experience some similar bittersweet feelings around your child’s birthday too.

This time of year also makes me think about why I started this blog. I decided to start blogging just as my daughter was nearing her first birthday. At the time, I was thrilled that I had survived my first year of motherhood (ha!), and was feeling really proud of myself for going from a rocky start with a newborn to being completely in awe and gratitude of the many gifts of motherhood. Around this time, I had really embraced mommy and me yoga, essential oils, and other holistic methods that were greatly improving my life, I was halfway through my year long life coaching certification program, and I wanted to share all that I was learning with other mothers around the world. And so, Mama Bird Well Nest was born. 🙂

And now, 3 years later, I am celebrating the birth of both my human baby and my blog baby!

If you read my last newsletter that I sent out in early May, then you already know that I’ve been taking a little break from blogging. After blogging every week for the last 2 years, I felt myself being called to step away from writing a little bit to focus more on my home and family life.

I’m a big believer in intuition, and so I listened to this little voice.

I stepped away from my business.

I started focusing more on creating a happy home life.

I took charge of my health, started eating healthfully, and recommitted to my yoga and meditation practice.

I started doing more mommy and me yoga with my daughter.

I hired a babysitter so that my husband and I could have more date nights.

I’m happy to report that all of these seemingly small changes had a big effect on me! They were exactly what I needed to feel refreshed and revitalized.

And then, in the middle of this break, something interesting happened…

I started to feel inspired to create a new project!

If you follow me on social media, you’ve seen that I’ve been sharing photos of my mommy & me yoga practice with my daughter, June, since she was a newborn. As I recommitted to doing more yoga with June over the last month, I started noticing that every time I posted a photo of us doing yoga together, I would get messages from other moms who were interested in doing yoga with their children, but didn’t know where to start.

And so, I decided to create a free, 5 day mommy & me yoga challenge!

Throughout this challenge I will be teaching moms how to start their own mommy & me yoga practice with their babies, preschoolers, and toddlers! You’ll learn fun yoga poses, breathing exercises, and relaxation techniques… basically, everything you need to know to help stop toddler tantrums and mommy meltdowns!

In just 5 days, you will have everything you need to start sharing the gift of yoga with your little ones. And the bonus is that as a result of learning these skills, you will start to feel more peaceful, patient, and present as you go about your mom life!

I’ve created this yoga challenge as a way to celebrate the anniversary of my blog and my journey as a mother. I hope you’ll join me in the celebration! I am honored to be able to give back to my community in this way. We are going to have such a great time doing yoga together as a way of kicking off a summer of fun with our little ones!

Click here to sign up and join us!

mommy and me yoga challenge

 

 

 

 

If you are a mom of little ones, I would love to have you join us in this yoga challenge! If you are not a mom of little ones, I invite you to share this with any mom friends who you think might benefit from it.

As always, I greatly appreciate your support and am so grateful to have you in my inner circle.

Thank you for sticking with me throughout this much needed sabbatical, and for your support as I launch this new project! I firmly believe that this new inspiration for my yoga challenge would not have come if I had not given myself the time and space to step away from blogging and focus more on my family. I really appreciate you being here and being a part of my process!

In closing, I just want to encourage you to listen to your intuition. If you are feeling that something is a little off in your life, listen to your wise inner voice. We always know what’s best for us; all we need to do is make space to listen.

Wishing you a summer of fun, love, and connection!

Be well,
Ambar

P.S. Make sure to click here to join us in the Yoga With Littles Challenge! 🙂

 

 

 

Mom Life is the Best Life

mom life is the best life

Earlier this week my daughter, June heard me say that “mom life is the best life”, and she asked, “what’s mom life, mommy?” Ah my child… where do I begin…

Mom life is beautiful, joyful, messy, and unfiltered.

Right now, for me, in this season of life, mom life is waking up early to start my day with a few precious minutes of alone time, even though I’d rather be sleeping in.

It’s mornings spent at story time, the park, or at play dates.

It’s meeting a friend and her kids for lunch, and realizing that you barely finished a full sentence in between encouraging your kids to eat and making sure no one catapulted out of their booster seat.

It’s craving a quiet afternoon but constantly catering to requests for more toys, stories, and snacks.

It’s being in constant awe of how big you’re getting, how much you’re changing, and how much independence you’re developing.

It’s knowing that even though I think you’re so big right now, a year from now I’ll look back and realize how little you were.

Mom life is constant nostalgia.

It’s counting down the minutes until daddy gets home, not just for the extra set of hands (although those matter too!), but for the moments the three of us get to share together, our own little team.

Mom life is wondering why a little person that’s so tired fights so hard to stay awake, when I myself would love nothing more than to crawl into bed each evening.

And then, mom life, ironically, is me fighting to stay awake every night after you go to bed so that your dad and I can have some alone time, which we so desperately need.

Mom life is me realizing that although all I’ve just said makes mom life sound a bit like a drag, it’s really the sweetest, most rewarding thing I’ve ever done.

Mom life is knowing that the priceless memories we’re making matter so much more than a full night’s sleep, days of peace and quiet, and uninterrupted meals.

Mom life is the most unconditional love and the purest joy you can imagine.

Mom life is a blessing.

Mom life is a gift.

Mom life is the best life.


What is your definition of mom life? We are each at different stages of our motherhood journeys and all have our own unique, personal experiences of mom life. Maybe you are an expecting mom, or maybe your children are already grown. Maybe you mother your grandchildren or your nieces and nephews. Maybe you are not a mother to your own child, but you are a teacher caring for students each day. Perhaps you have birthed a business, a book, a garden, or a new home. We are all mothers caring for the people and things we love.

What does mom life mean to you? Please share in the comments below! I would love to start an open conversation about this. I think it will be beautiful to read about the different experiences of mom life, and see that even though each experience is different, we are all on this beautiful journey together.

May you love your mom life each and every day (even the hard ones).

Be well,
Ambar

The ONE Question that will ALWAYS Help You Make the Right Decision

one question to make decision making easy

Hi friends!

I spent most of the day yesterday at a half day yoga retreat and it was so wonderful! Taking this uninterrupted time for myself to practice yoga, connect with my spirit, and meet other like minded women was exactly what my soul needed.

However, I almost didn’t go… I had signed up for this event a week in advance, and as it got closer and closer I started second guessing myself and asking myself if I really wanted to go. I started to feel guilty that I would be missing out on a whole morning of activities with my husband and daughter. I started worrying that I didn’t really know anyone going to the event and would feel awkward or uncomfortable. I was a little anxious because I had never been to a retreat like this before and didn’t really know what to expect.

Does this happen to you before doing something new? Maybe you can relate…

But, then I asked myself the one question that always helps me get clear in situations like this:

“Who do I want to be?”

Who do I want to be?! I want to be a woman who goes on yoga retreats! I want to be a woman who takes care of her mental, spiritual, and physical wellbeing. I want to be the kind of mother that shows her daughter that taking good care of herself is absolutely necessary. I want to be someone who takes time to nurture her own needs, wants, and desires. I want to be someone who has local friends who are interested in yoga, spirituality, and share similar interests. I want to be someone who is brave enough to try new things. I want to be someone who knows that taking good care of herself is just as important as taking care of others. I want to be a woman who has a strong connection with God, who knows how to quiet her mind, who listens when she is being guided.

These are all things that yoga does for me… and so, from this place of looking at the person I most want to be, it became crystal clear that I needed to go on this retreat!

This could have gone a different way… If my answer to the question, “Who do I want to be?” was something along the lines of: I want to be someone who spends every waking moment with her family. I want to be someone who feels safe and comfortable and isn’t interested in trying new things. I want to be someone who has a solid home yoga practice and doesn’t feel the need to be part of a community… if this had been my truth, then it would have been clear that this retreat was not something that was in alignment with the person I want to be.

It all comes down to asking the question, “Who do I want to be?” and then taking time to answer it truthfully. Deep down, we all know who we most want to be… what our best selves look like. We just need to make the space in our lives to answer this question and then do the things that help us move forward as this true version of ourselves. When we do this, we can rest assured that we are making the right decisions. Our desires are always guiding us in the right direction.

And so, after spending the morning at this yoga retreat yesterday, I am feeling peaceful, connected, and inspired. I am proud of myself for trying something new. I returned to my family feeling refreshed and spent the afternoon being fully present with them. I am glad that I took this much needed time for myself.

Next time that you are feeling a little stuck or anxious about doing something new, ask yourself this question: Who do I want to be? And then go forward and do whatever you need to do to start being the person who you most want to be! This is the path to fulfillment.

Be well,
Ambar

 

A Special Way to Welcome Spring

special spring ritual

Happy Spring friends!

Earlier this week we celebrated the Spring Equinox, where we have equal amounts of daylight and darkness.

Now that springtime is underway, the amount of daylight is slowly increasing each day. I like to think of this time of year as a time where we are all moving toward the light.

The energy of spring brings new life and renewal. This makes it the perfect time to set new goals or intentions for what we want to grow in our lives.

My daughter June and I celebrated the Spring Equinox with a special ritual that I want to share with you! It is a simple, but powerful way to welcome spring and start moving toward the beautiful visions that you have for yourself and your life in this new season!

spring equinox ritual

How to Create a Simple  & Special Spring Ritual:

  1. Buy or gather fresh flowers

2. Take a moment to set an intention, or goal, around what you want to see grow in your life this spring.

spring ritual

3. As you cut your flowers and pull out any dead or bottom leaves, imagine that you are pulling out anything that has been keeping you from achieving your intentions/ goals/ dreams.

4. As you arrange your flowers into containers, imagine that you are arranging everything that needs to fall into place in order to allow your dreams to bloom!

As an added bonus, you can light a candle to symbolize the increase of light, and play calming or uplifting music while doing this ritual.

Dedicating some time to intentionally welcome spring and think about your hopes and dreams will create positive momentum in your life. This will help you stay focused on your ambitions and cultivate your desires.

Please let me know how you feel after trying this ritual! It is so simple but powerful, and easy to do either on your own or with your little ones!

I am wishing you all that you desire and more this spring.

Be well,
Ambar

3 Ways to Keep Calm on Christmas (and every other holiday!)

how to keep calm on Christmas and other holidays

 

Hello friends!

The holidays are upon us! Merry Christmas eve to those of you celebrating! I know that the holidays can be a stressful time for many of us, despite our best intentions. It’s easy to get carried away by the high energy of these special occasion days and find ourselves feeling stressed out, crazed, and overwhelmed.

I don’t want that to happen to you this year, so I am sharing my 3 best tips for keeping calm on Christmas, and every other holiday!

1) Start the morning off right

It’s easy to start the holidays by jumping out of bed and tackling your holiday to-do list. Now, I understand that you have a lot of things to get done. Some of you may be hosting large family gatherings. Others have children who are itching to wake up at the crack of dawn to open presents. These are all beautiful things, and part of the holiday experience. But, when you start your day on someone else’s agenda, it’s easy to fall into the stress trap.

Try to take just a few moments to create a mindful morning. Sip your coffee in peace while looking at your beautifully lit Christmas tree. Take a few minutes to do a little yoga or meditate. Go for a quick walk around the block. These simple activities do not take very long and they will help you start the holiday feeling calm and tuned into yourself. From this place of peace, you are better capable of enjoying the busy day ahead!

2) Take a time out

Find quick and easy ways to take a break from the holiday hustle and bustle so that you can tune back into yourself and restore your inner peace. Go to the bathroom to meditate. Step into a spare room to close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Step outside for some fresh air. Mix a little quiet time with the busy-ness of the day. This will help you feel more grounded and centered.

Another effortless way to do this, is to stash your favorite essential oils or stones in your pocket or handbag as an easy way to bring a little Zen into your holiday experience. I personally always carry little seashells and beach rocks in the pockets of all my coats. The beach is my happy place, and now whenever I reach into my pockets I’m reminded to slow down, breathe, and ride things out, just like I do when I’m at the beach. 🙂

3) Focus on Connection not Perfection

A lot of us turn into perfectionists during the holidays. It’s easy to want to be the perfect hostess, buy the perfect gifts, wear the perfect outfit, have our kids behave perfectly. This is exhausting and leads to stress! Plus, it’s impossible to be perfect, and a lot of these things are actually out of our control, so we might as well give up this quest for perfection now.

Instead, focus on connecting with the people you are with. Put away your phone and have meaningful conversations. Look into people’s eyes. Ask them about themselves. Talk about what’s important to you. Focus on the love you have for the people around you. Create a real connection, one that you can feel. This is the real meaning of the holidays. Instead of focusing on things being perfect, focus on what really matters; love and connection.

Wishing you a calm and happy holiday! May your days be merry and bright, my friends!

Be well,
Ambar

 

Holiday Gift Guide featuring JORD wood watches

Hey friends,

I am super excited to share that I am partnering with JORD wood watches this holiday season. I have been a huge fan of this company for quite awhile, and am thrilled to be part of their holiday campaign.

JORD makes the most beautiful, unique wood watches. Their watches are truly one of a kind and are the perfect gift for anyone on your list! Some of you might remember that I gifted my husband one of their unique men’s watches for our 5 year wedding anniversary earlier this year. He loved his men’s wooden watch so much that now for the holidays, I decided to do things a little bit differently and treat myself to a JORD women’s watch!

As you all know, I am all about taking care of myself and treating myself well. One way in which I’ve been slacking, is when it comes to buying myself Christmas gifts. Before I became a mom, I would always make sure to treat myself to something special each holiday season. I saw it as a way to reward myself for all that I had accomplished that year. But, the last couple of years since having my daughter, the focus of the holidays has shifted over to her, which of course is natural, but I’ve been realizing that I also deserve to celebrate myself too!

So, this year, I treated myself to the JORD Cora series watch in Zebrawood & Rosé. Isn’t it a beauty?JORD Cora zebrawood & rose

 

All JORD watches come in a beautiful wooden keepsake box. Their handcrafted watches are truly works of art. You can tell that each watch is created intentionally; it is evident in every part of the watch, from the all natural, quality materials, to the packaging itself.

JORD Cora Zebrawood & Rose

I love this watch so much! And now, every time that I wear it I am reminded of all of the milestones that I accomplished this year, whether through this blog, in my coaching business, or in my personal life.

JORD Cora series zebrawood & rose

We all deserve to treat ourselves from time to time. I invite you to treat yourself to something special this year.

JORD is gifting 25% off to all of my readers. –>> Click here to redeem your instant coupon code! <<–

They have cool watches for everyone on your list, so whether you are looking for a men’s wooden watch or women’s wooden watch, JORD has you covered.

I hope that you love these wooden watches as much as I do!

Treat yourself well this holiday season.

Be well,
Ambar

P.S. In case you were wondering, toddlers love JORD watches too. 😉

 

 


Watch Gift Ideas

How to Take Care of Yourself and Put Yourself First

How to Help Yourself

I have recently been thinking of the Audrey Hepburn quote, “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.”

I had never felt the truth of this statement as much as I have now before I became a mom. I didn’t fully understand selfless, unconditional love, or the fierce devotion I’d have to wanting to help and protect my daughter as much as possible.

At the same time, I also never understood how vital it is to take care of myself, or that the ONLY way to take care of others is by taking care of myself first.

Becoming a mother has taught me what a great helper I am, and it’s also forced me to learn to help myself by taking simple, doable, and consistent actions that make a big difference in my quality of life.

By learning to help myself, and take great care of myself, I am better able to show up in the world as the wife, woman, and mother that I most want to be.

I am currently facing some new stressors in my life. My grandmother, who I am extremely close with had to have emergency surgery and has been in the hospital for almost two weeks. My 90 year old grandfather has been alone in their home, and needs help going back and forth to visit my grandma. I’ve been spending most days at the hospital with them, while also trying to juggle motherhood and all of my other responsibilities, and I’d be lying if I said this wasn’t stressful.

The only thing that’s keeping me sane through this ordeal is my commitment to self care; my dedication to helping myself first.

This is what helping myself first looks like these days:

  • Practicing yoga every morning
  • Spending a little time outdoors each day
  • Eating a healthy breakfast
  • Bringing my own lunch to the hospital
  • Using essential oils to ground me throughout the day whenever I need it
  • Taking a daily break to go for a walk
  • Listening to good music and inspiring podcasts on my drives to and from the hospital
  • Putting away my phone and being fully present with my husband and daughter each night
  • Crying to my husband or a friend whenever I’m feeling particularly burdened
  • Relaxing and reading before bed every night
  • Asking for help when I need it

These activities may seem trivial, and maybe doing one of them by itself wouldn’t have as big of an impact. But the culmination of taking these small moments to take care of myself daily adds up to my feeling grounded, safe, and supported, even during uncertain times.

It is only from this place of being cared for, that I am able to help others. By filling myself up first, I can show up as the patient and loving mother that I most want to be. I can help and support my grandparents as they age. I can be a devoted wife, and a good friend. I can hold more space for my coaching clients and be of greater service to them. I can write meaningful blog posts. I can show up to the world ready to give and ready to help…. But ONLY if I am helping myself first.

This is true for all of us. I would love for you to take some time this week to think about the ways in which you are helping others, and also the ways in which you are helping yourself. Notice if this give and take feels balanced to you. We are here in this world to help one another, but we simply cannot do that to the best of our ability if we are not first helping ourselves.

What can you do to help yourself today?

Please share in the comments below, or reply to this email to speak to me personally!

Take care and have a beautiful week.

Be well,
Ambar

 

P.S. If you are someone who struggles with making self care a priority, I would love to help! I am getting ready to start working with new coaching clients and am offering a free Self Care Strategy Session to anyone who is interested in seeing how life coaching works. I know that this time of year can get a little stressful, and I would love to support you in putting yourself first so that you can have an easeful and peaceful holiday season. Simply send an email to ambar@mamabirdwellnest.com if you would like to claim your free session and we will get it scheduled right away!

 

How to Ask for Help (And Actually Get It)

How to ask for Help and actually Get It

I’ve noticed a pattern with many of the women I talk to. A lot of us have a hard time asking for help, and sometimes, we desperately need it. As busy, driven women, we wear many hats: wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, neighbor, co-worker, boss, etc. We like to think that we can do it all by ourselves. This puts a lot of pressure on us. It can be difficult for one person to juggle all of these hats, and to try to balance them all without any help can be plain exhausting.

I’ve come to accept the fact that just because I CAN do it all, does not mean that I HAVE to. Life is so much easier when we feel supported. The people around us love us and want to help us. Many times, all we need to do is ask.

Here is my 3 step process on how to ask for help (and actually get it!):

1) Figure out where your struggles are

Many times, we can feel completely overwhelmed without pinpointing exactly where the source of overwhelm is coming from. It can be helpful to take a look at your daily routine from morning to night, and figure out where the trouble spots are.

Let’s say you are a stay at home mom with a colicky baby. Your mornings start out pretty well, you have a morning routine down, make sure to get out of the house for a little each day, and everything runs smoothly until lunch time. You start to notice that by the afternoon, you are starting to feel exhausted, and during the evening time, “the witching hours” where your baby is extremely fussy, you start to feel extremely stressed out and on edge. During this time, you are trying to get dinner on the table, soothe your crying baby, and spend time with your partner who is just getting home from work.

By looking at your routine, you’ve noticed that the evening hours are the time where you need help. Now that you know this, you can move on to the next step…

2) Find at least 3 possible solutions to your challenge

It can be helpful to come up with more than one solution to our challenges; this way we know that our circumstances are not just happening to us; they are a choice that we are actively making. It can be empowering to think about our challenges in this way.

So, in the above scenario, you might decide that you need some time to yourself each evening, so you will ask your husband to watch your child for an hour each night while you unwind by taking a hot shower, or going for a walk. Or, you might decide that what you really need is to order a meal delivery service so that you can stop stressing out about cooking dinner during this challenging time of day. Or, you may consider joining a moms group so that you can get support from other moms whose babies have colic. After coming up with these 3 options, you may find that one in particular stands out as the first obvious choice, or you may even decide to use all of them. These 3 options can now become your plan of action, or your solution to the challenges you are facing.

Now that you have some options for the type of help you desire, it’s time to move on to the last step…

3) Ask for help and be specific

The secret to asking for help and getting it, is to be specific about what your needs are.

Let’s go back to the same situation we’ve been working with. If your husband comes home from work, and you’re feeling like you’ve had it after a long day, you might be tempted to scream at him and say something like “I can’t do this anymore! I need help!” And while it’s great that you are asking for help, the way that you are asking is not particularly conducive to getting the help you so desperately need, because by simply saying “I need help”, you are leaving it up for interpretation. Your husband’s idea of what type of help you truly need might be completely different from yours. Or, he may not know what he can do to help you without being given direction. This is why it’s so important to get clear on what you need and how you can get it (which you’ve already done if you’ve followed the steps above).

Now that you are prepared, you can have a conversation with your husband and say something like, “The evening hours have been really tough for me. Do you think you could help me by taking the baby for an hour every night so that I can have some time to regroup?” This request for help is simple and clear, and chances are, he will be happy to help you.

And that’s my 3 step process for asking for, and receiving help. I know that it can be difficult to ask for help, but life is so much better when we feel supported. It can be empowering to stand up for yourself, recognize what your challenges are, and take steps to improve your situation.

I hope that you find these steps helpful, and that you are able to get help in whatever way you see fit. What do you need help with? Let me know in the comments below! I’ve learned that sometimes just saying it out loud starts to send a message out to the world that we are ready to receive the help we need. 🙂

Wishing you an easeful week full of help + support.

Be well,
Ambar

 

P.S. If you are a mom looking for some extra support, I have a few spots open for my private coaching packages. Whether you are struggling with relationship challenges, feeling emotional due to lack of sleep, or having trouble adjusting to motherhood or any other major life change, life coaching can help you. Learn more about my coaching packages by clicking HERE or sending an email to ambar@mamabirdwellnest.com. It would be my honor to help you. 🙂

Our Children’s Stories are Not Our Stories

Our Children's Stories are not our stories
Photo by Bilimama Photography

Hello my friend! If you follow me on social media, (and if you don’t, I would love to connect on my Facebook page, Instagram, and be friends on FB!), you may have seen that my daughter fell down and fractured her collar bone earlier this week. It was a rough day that included 4 hours at Urgent Care with a hurting 2 year old, and lots of tears on both of our parts.

I myself, have never broken a bone, and I didn’t have my first surgery or stitches until I was well into my 20s. Navigating this world of broken bones with a toddler seemed unfair to me. I felt so badly for her and wanted to take away her pain, but of course I couldn’t. Having never experiencing this myself, I realized that I had been hoping that her experience would have been more similar to mine; that she wouldn’t have to handle a broken bone until much later in life, if at all. That’s when I had my epiphany:

Her story is not my story.

My daughter’s story, is not my story. She is her own unique individual, and she is here to have her own unique life experience. She is a human being with her own share of strengths and challenges to navigate in this lifetime.

We all want the best for our children. It can be so easy to fall into the trap of thinking that we know what’s best for them, or wanting them to experience life in a similar way in which we did, or to protect them from the challenges that we ourselves faced.

But we must remember, that our children are on their own individual paths. Their stories are not our stories.

It’s human nature to want to protect our babies, to hold them close, to keep them safe. And yet, that is not our job.

Our job as mothers, is to provide our children with unconditional love and unwavering support, through the ups and downs of their own individual journeys.

Their journeys are part of our journeys, yes. But, they are not OUR journey. They are their own unique selves meant to experience the world in their own unique way, with their own unique set of circumstances.

We can advise them, guide them, and love them. But we cannot choose their story. We cannot dictate their journey.

We must stick to our own journey. And know that by honoring our own individual journeys, and living our lives as we see fit, in the best ways we can, we are giving our children permission to do the same.

So, next time that you find yourself wishing that you could take away your child’s pain, or that things could be different, stop for a moment, and give yourself the grace to know that they are on their own individual journey. Trust that whatever they are experiencing is a necessary part of their story, and believe in them enough to know that they have the inner strength to get through it. And then, give them lots of love and extra hugs. 🙂

Is this something that you struggle with? What’s the hardest part about trusting that your little ones need to have their own stories? Let me know in the comments below.

Take good care this week.

Be well,
Ambar