Once you become a mom, alone time can be hard to come by… and ironically, as moms, we need our alone time more than ever.
As mothers, being busy comes with the territory. We are constantly chasing after our little humans, entertaining them, playing with them, caring for them, and keeping them alive. With so much of our time being spent caring for our babies, it’s no wonder that we’re exhausted at the end of the day.
Our children are adorable and precious. But they are also exuberant, loud, energetic, and needy. They are very dependent on us, and because of that, much of our time is spent giving.
When all of our time is spent giving, we get out of balance, and start to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Life is meant to be a natural give and take; when that isn’t happening, we are out of balance.
That’s where alone time comes in. Alone time is the gift we give ourselves. It helps even out the score so that we can get back into balance. Here are 3 reasons why alone time is so necessary for mothers, especially for mothers of young children:
Silence is Golden
I have heard it said that mothers of young children need to spend time in silence because so much of our time is consumed by noise and chaos. Could this be any more true? When most of our time is spent with our little ones, it’s very easy to become overstimulated. Having some peace and quiet helps us to relax and rejuvenate.
Self Care is Needed
Alone time qualifies as self care time. Self care doesn’t have to mean a trip to the spa. Spending a half hour reading a book or going for a walk are also ways to practice self care. We’ve all heard the expression ‘you can’t fill from an empty cup”. Taking some self care time helps balance the scales. If we are not taking good care of ourselves, the quality of care that we give to our children suffers. When we are rested and feeling good, we are better able to enjoy spending quality time with our little ones, and have a better attitude while caring for them. Taking some much needed time to ourselves allows us to recalibrate.
Tune in to Your Desires
Having space and time to ourselves helps us quiet our minds and become reacquainted with ourselves. When we are still, we are better able to connect with our inner wisdom. Have you ever noticed that you get your best ideas in the shower? That’s because it’s a quiet time when you are completely focused on yourself. Taking some alone time can have a similar effect.
As you can see, having alone time is absolutely crucial and necessary to our well being as mothers. Even a few moments spread out throughout the day can make a major difference.
Here are some ideas for incorporating more alone time into your day:
- Wake up before your children. Use this morning time to do some sun salutations, journal, or simply sip a cup of coffee in peace.
- Take mental health breaks throughout the day. Find a few moments when your children are entertained, step into another room, and do some deep breathing.
- Make showering and bathing a spa experience. Use some special bath salts or shower gel and use this time to intentionally unwind.
- Make meals a sacred time. Shut down electronics, use your good china, sit down and enjoy every meal.
- Enforce nap time or quiet time. If your children are still young enough to nap, take advantage of this quiet time to enjoy some self care time to yourself.
- Use your support system. Incorporate some time into your week where you can lean on your support system to help with your children so that you can get some time to yourself. Have your partner take your kids in the morning so that you can rest, ask your babysitter to stay for an extra hour, or drop the kids off for a playdate with friends. Take inventory of your resources and use them regularly so that you can get a break.
- Create an evening ritual. Take some time to wind down before bed by diffusing some essential oils, reading an inspiring book, or doing an evening meditation. Use this time to unwind.
- Make sleep a non-negotiable. It can be tempting to stay up late watching Netflix, but that’s not always the best use of your alone time. Try your best to shut down electronics a half an hour before bed and go to sleep at a decent time so that you can feel rested enough to wake up before your kids and follow these tips all over again every day! 🙂
I hope that you’ve started to see the value of getting some time to yourself each and every day. What’s the biggest challenge you face with incorporating alone time into your daily routine? Let me know in the comments below! I would love to help you work through this.
Have a beautiful week and enjoy some quality time with yourself!
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8 thoughts on “Why Alone Time is Necessary For Moms”
A little personal time is so important but it’s so hard to get when your kids are young. I like your little tips, I try to make shower time my own little spa time haha.
I totally feel you.. the struggle is real when you’re home with littles! We just have to make sure we are up for the challenge and find little ways to make it work! 😉 So glad you are enjoying your spa time in the shower! 😀
This is a great article and something that is so hard to do as a Mom. Finally after over a year of being a SAHM, I am starting to do things throughout the week for me! It’s definitely needed in order to prevent a total breakdown. I love your tips as to how to get this time throughout the week. Thanks for sharing 😊
Thanks for reading Casey! I’m so glad it resonates with you. I just transitioned to being a SAHM this year and have realized how sanity saving alone time really is! 🙂
These tips are so spot on!! My favorite “me time” is a shower while my husband’s home so he can distract my LO long enough for me to lather rinse AND REPEAT! 😍
Haha that’s awesome! That is a daily occurrence in my house too! I don’t usually repeat though… will have to try tonight! 😉
Some really great tips here. Alone time is so important. Papa helps me out and will grab the boys so I can get a few moments but often it’s clean up yoga. 😂
LOL! I know it can be hard not to use our alone time for getting things done. But we need time to refresh too! It’s great that you have some help so that you can get a little time to yourself! 🙂